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Why would anyone be against love?
Clearly no one can be against love. Love has vast power over us, it shapes us as selves. But every age also defines love differently, which raises the question of how and why our current definitions of coupledom became what they are, also whether they’re workable or sustainable. Do they make people happy? They don’t enjoy a particularly high success rate these days, given current divorce statisticsæeven marriage itself is now in steep decline according to recent census data. But when love fails no one seems to blame love itself, it can only be the individual’s fault. You haven’t “worked hard enough” at your relationship. Clearly the credo that “good relationships take work” isn’t working. The book’s title just reflects the ambivalence and contradiction that pervade the subject.
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